5,000,000 COPIES SOLD WORLDWIDE; TRANSLATED IN MORE THAN 35 LANGUAGES What is Violent Communication? If violent means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate -judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who's good/bad or what's right/wrong with people- could indeed be called violent communication. What is Nonviolent Communication? Nonviolent Communication is the integration of four things: ; Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of compassion, collaboration, courage, and authenticity ; Language: understanding how words contribute to connection or distance ; Communication: knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even in disagreement, and how to move toward solutions that work for all ; Means of influence: sharing power with others rather than using power over others Nonviolent Communication serves our desire to do three things: ; Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection ; Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships ; Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit